my crossing

I had my lunch with a girlfriend yesterday. It’s been quite sometime since the last time we talked. She used to be an officemate but for some health reasons, she resigned and applied in a different company, almost of the same nature of work but with a better schedule. Now, she’s working in one of the biggest telecom company.

Actually, baket nga ba kami nagkita, well aside from the fact na medyo matagal na rin kami nung huling magkita, she shared something rin kase tungkol sa nangyari sa kanyang married life. Yes, she is already  married and it all happened because of a simple pagpapakilala ko sa kanilang dalawa ng husband nya ngayon..errrr..estrange husband na actually. Let me share the background para mas malinaw ang kwento.

It all started when i was given a phone number by my housemate, I was still sharing then an apartment with some of my used to be my officemates where I first worked as an accounting assistant. To cut it short, naging constant caller ko ung guy and textmate. Pero sa pag-uusap pa lang namin, I sensed something wrong na with him, the way he talks and all. He kept on insisting na kaboses ko ung ex nya, or baka daw kilala ko ung ex nya, something like that. Eh I already told him where I got his number, he was still doubtful kahit na nga kilala nya ung friend ko na nagbigay ng number nya. That’s where I find him kinda weird. What is it with his ex that makes him sound angry or bitter kapag binabanggit nya. But because my friend convinced me na ok naman daw ung guy kase kilala nya somehow, I was assured. After a couple of calls and texts, he already insisted on meeting me personally. Since, I find no wrong naman in meeting him,para d na rin tumagal, anyways, that’s where it will lead us in the long run, ung magkita, I decided to meet him before I report for work. But I was really nervous that time, d ako sanay eh so what I did was I texted my officemate and told her I was about to meet someone, if she could accompany me and she said ok naman. In fairness to the guy, I told him naman na me kasama ako, un nga lang it was too late na when I informed him kase andun na sya sa area nung sinabi ko, hehehe. So, we decided to meet sa Starbucks Shangri la and kinda ironic because it was my officemate who first saw him when I told her the description based on his text that I showed to her. So, she was the one who approached him. Since our office then was still situated in SMPC ortigas, inihatid nya muna kami sa office to drop our things and we invited another friend to accompany us. We ended up having coffee at Starbucks Megamall. Before that night ended, I was already teasing my friend to him. Kase pareho silang taga batangas so they have something in common and aside from that,feeling ko lang mas bagay sila. So, I gave her number to him, of course with her consent and right there and then, alam ko na agad, d ko na magiging textmate ung guy. Hehehe

True enough, after a week or so, my friend confirmed they were already going out which is ok lang sa aken and I was even happy for them. But of course, ung worry ko na I dnt know the guy that much, that bothered me kaya lang d ko masabi sa friend ko so I just crossed my finger na sana maging ok naman lahat, besides my friend is old enough naman na to take care of herself. Not long enough, she resigned na from work so nawalan kami ng communication for awhile. Until one day, she called me to let me know they’re married na sa civil pa nga lang and that they’re planning to have a church wedding come December of that year, but she doesn’t sound happy. She even sound wretched so I asked her why, then she decided to tell me the whole story. That they are having marital problems such as this and that. And that nagsisisi na sya sa pagpapakasal sa guy. I felt sad because somehow I was a part of the reason why she met him. to think na mga more than a year pa lang  sila magkakilala and few motnhs pa lang sila nagsasama as husband and wife. May attitude problem daw kase ung guy. The first time we met nung friend ko,after she resigned fr work, it was the same place where we all met actually, sa Starbucks Megamall, she was almost crying in disappointment to what had happened in the relationship. I couldn’t help but feel sad pero ala ako magawa. I told her not to pursue na lang the church wedding kase gagastos pa but naka set na daw lahat and kahiyaan na. Actually, I asked her the reason why they got married sa civil in the first place. At first I thought she was preganant, d naman pala. Sabi nya, they started to live in na daw kase and when their parents found out, ayun sinabi sa kanila na gawin na lang nilang legal ang pagsasama since they are both adults na. The guy that time was 28 and my friend was 24. So, kahit d sure ung friend ko if she’s ready to get married since mahal naman daw nya ung guy, nagpakasal sila sa huwes. Hayyyyyyy

It was actually just last week when I got the chance to browse my friendster and I saw her status d na married, instead single na so I emailed her and asked her what happened. Un nga daw, after trying to reconcile for 2 times, they both agreed to part ways na. Nagsinungaling daw kase ung guy and ayaw umamin kahit buko na. He was not yet over with his ex. He’s still bitter with what happened and kahit kasal na sila, the guy is still not responsible. It was only later that he found out, he’s not a husband material at all. Tsk tsk

Unfortunately, d ako naging magaling na kupido. Sabi nga nung friend ko, Sol madaling magpakasal pero for the marriage to work out, un ang mahirap. Sabi nya, ang sarap daw ng single, u have the freedom and all. U can do anything u want and sabi nya mas masaya at magaan ang pakiramdam nya now that she is living like a single again.

So, who says I wanna get married soon eh? Am 27 and still counting…hehehe